Proverbs 5:16-23
Prov 5:16 (KJB)
Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.
This verse could possible be speaking of having children within the confines of oneís own marriage and avoiding the strange woman. When there are children raised in a home which is replete with the wisdom of God, those offspring will take what they have learned and not only utilize it in their own lives but they will be in a position to bring this wisdom to others, especially in training the next generation. (John 7:38 KJV) He that believeth on me, as the scripture hath said, out of his belly shall flow rivers of living water. Those true Christian families which rear up their children in the fear and nurture of the Lord will become blessings to those who befriend them and their influence will touch even beyond their own personal friendships as their wisdom is imparted to others, they, in turn, impart it to others as a good ripple effect. This also applies to sending forth the Gospel because those who have grown up with the true Gospel, will also send forth the rivers of living water as the Lord stated in John 7:38.
Prov 5:17 (KJB)
Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with thee.
This speaks to the fact that the father of these wise children must be those of he and his wife. If these children were the children of his adultery, then he will not really know if the children are his or someone elseís. This will cause those children to be strangers to him and would not hold the same place in his heart as if he was certain those children were his. This is another bad fruit of having an adulterous affair with a strange woman, because if she conceives, then those children will feel out of place and will sense they are not as loved or welcomed as those who came from the manís legitimate wife. This is another consequence of adultery. The idea that secret sexual sins hurt no one else is a total lie because there is always someone else who gets hurt by the actions of adultery or any sin.
Prov 5:18 (KJB)
Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
Here is great counsel that we are to rejoice with the woman we married as a youth and all the children she brings forth are to be loved and blessed with the love of a good family situation. Adultery will wreck a family, even if one person does not know about it yet. There are always tell tale signs that someone is having an adulterous affair. When we stay loyal to our mates, we are building the strength of the family and placing God in a position where He can bless that family with wisdom. God cannot bless any type of sin, instead He has to judge that sin, even in His own children. He knows how destructive it can be and He judges it for our own benefit and also if we are Christians, it causes His name to be blasphemed among the unbelievers.
Prov 5:19 (KJB)
Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
(Song 4:5 KJV) Thy two breasts are like two young roes that are twins, which feed among the lilies. This Proverbs verse echoes the Song of Solomon concerning the love of a husband for his wife. Within a marriage, the love grows between husband and wife and the man is to find satisfaction with his wife. When he becomes satisfied with his wife, he will not look to find another and on the other hand, when a wife is satisfied with her husband, then she will not look for another. The counsel here, is to grow together physically and spiritually, when you have this combination, the marriage gets stronger with time and the bonds become greater. The breasts represent nourishment for a baby but here it also represents the wife being the one who nourishes her husband with love and does not give him cause to seek an adulterous affair.
Prov 5:20 (KJB)
And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?
Here Solomon asks the question that, based on the previous verse, that if the wifeís love is ravishing him, why then would he want to take that relationship and adulterate it with a strange woman? The fact is that a husband and wife grow together intimately and know what each other likes as time goes on. Why then would someone want to commit adultery with someone who knows nothing about you, plus you really know nothing about them and you could bring home a deadly sexual disease to your wife. If a strange woman is committing adultery with you, she no doubt is committing it with others too, and she is not going to tell you. Getting gifts from multiple people is better than getting gifts from just one person. There is always a greed factor involved with adulterous relationships.
Prov 5:21 (KJB)
For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and he pondereth all his goings.
Pondereth - Weighs
(Heb 4:13 KJV) Neither is there any creature that is not manifest in his sight: but all things are naked and opened unto the eyes of him with whom we have to do. There is no one on earth, whether saved or unsaved, whose actions are not open before the Lord. God sees through the darkness and will bring all actions into judgment. Those in Christ have had their sins forgiven and removed but even when a Christian sins, there are physical ramifications. He could lose his testimony or wind up with a deadly disease. The unsaved will wind up in Hell, a Christless eternity. The Lord weighs all the motives and when one thinks that an adulterous affair is good for them, they will find out that they are stepping into the hands of Godís judgment. (Heb 13:4 KJV) Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. God Himself is going to judge those who commit adultery and fornication because He has set a perimeter around marriage, especially since marriage represents the relationship between Christ and the church.
Prov 5:22 (KJB)
His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins.
This verse teaches that sin binds a person and makes them prisoners of their own sins. Some may believe that a free thinking society is freedom but it is really making prisoners of people and they can never escape those sins unless God saves them. The unbeliever has no one to blame for the situation they are in since they are doing the sins themselves. Many would like to transfer the blame to others but the reality is that on Judgment Day, every unbeliever is going to give an account to God. (Rom 14:10 KJV) But why dost thou judge thy brother? or why dost thou set at nought thy brother? for we shall all stand before the judgment seat of Christ. No one shall escape the penalty for their own sins. Unbelievers will not be judged for the sins of others but for theirs alone.
Prov 5:23 (KJB)
He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.
The unbeliever here is not dying without being instructed but he is dying for the simple fact that he has rejected the counsel that he was being given concerning adultery. He goes so far astray that the teachings of Scripture are no longer of any interest to him and he just rejects or avoids the Scriptures with their admonishments. Those admonishments are there for our benefit and not for our destruction. To reject them is destruction. Too many think they know what is good for them and too many have ruined good marriages by obeying their flesh instead of turning to the counsel of Scripture and reading the consequences of their actions.