- Proverbs 18:21-24
- Prov 18:21 (KJB)
- Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love
it shall eat the fruit thereof.
- This verse is teaching that words can have serious effect upon those who
hear them. Words can be used to help encourage and heal a person and on the
other hand, words, when used by a fool or an evil person, can have the
opposite effect and can destroy a person. How many people have we met in our
lives that have been discouraged by another and therefore do not attempt to
do anything. On the other hand, how many have we met that were encouraged
and attempted to do things and have accomplished them. Words can bring a
person down or raise a person up, especially when they are spoken by someone
that we love or trust. The second half of this verse speaks of the person
uses words continually and they will eat the fruit, that is, they will
suffer the consequences or reap the results of the words spoken. Words
spoken do not only affect the hearer but also the one who is speaking.
Sometimes we Christians can be more negative than positive. What I mean by
that is let us say somebody comes to the average Christian and says they
want to start a business. The average Christian will go into super-spiritual
mode and say things like, “oh that is worldly and you shouldn’t get involved
in worldly things” or something to that effect. Instead we should be saying,
“if you believe the Lord wants you to start a business, then do it, but do
not forget the Lord when the profits start coming in and give out of those
profits and the Lord will bless that business.” We need to encourage the
brethren and not always discourage them.
- This verse also has a spiritual meaning. Death and life are in the words
of the person bringing the Gospel. There are going to be those who hear the
Word of God and joyfully accept the words because they have been qualified
to hear them. There will be those who hear the Word of God and will reject
it wanting nothing to do with it. (2 Cor
2:16 KJV) To the one we are the savour of death unto death; and to
the other the savour of life unto life. And who is sufficient for
these things? 2 Corinthians 2:16 states that to
some we bring life but to others we bring death. The second part of that
verse is important because the speaker must be bringing the true Gospel, if
they are not, then that is evidence they are unsaved and their own words
will condemn them at the last day. (Mat
12:37 KJV) For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou
shalt be condemned. So they will eat the fruit of
salvation or condemnation.
- Prov 18:22 (KJB)
- Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth
favour of the LORD.
- Here the counsel given is that a man who finds a wife does find a good
thing simply because they have received the wife from the Lord. In other
words, the man did not go out and date a hundred women in hopes to find one
that is compatible with him. The godly man waits upon the Lord to bring him
a wife and if the Lord does not, then the Lord wants that man to remain
single. If the Lord brings him a wife, then they will be totally compatible
and that is how one obtains favor. If a man marries the wrong woman, then
there will be much hostility in that marriage. This is why dating is such a
dangerous game to play because a man might marry a woman because of her
beauty but underneath lies a beast. This verse also speaks of the Lord Jesus
Christ. When He went to the cross to pay for the sins of His people, He was
purchasing a bride and this was favour from the LORD, which is Jehovah, His
Father. (John 6:37 KJV) All that the
Father giveth me shall come to me; and him that cometh to me I will in no
wise cast out. The Lord Jesus Christ is still
gathering His bride today and when the last day comes with the choosing of
the last one, then comes the end and the glorification of His Saints, the
- Prov 18:23 (KJB)
- The poor useth entreaties; but the rich answereth roughly.
- Entreaties - Supplication or an outpouring of a troubled soul
- Roughly - Harsh or be strong
- Poor people normally have to seek help with their lives and they use
supplications or entreaties to make their case or plight known. They do not
come with an arrogance because they know it will work against them. However,
the rich people can have all the arrogancy they want simply because they are
rich and people pander to the rich no matter how nasty they get. The rich
people think their riches are a license to treat others with contempt but
they too will realize that error. (Col
4:1 KJV) Masters, give unto your servants that which is just and
equal; knowing that ye also have a Master in heaven.
The rich do not realize it yet, but they too have a
master in Heaven that they must give an account to.
- Prov 18:24 (KJB)
- A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and
there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
- A little technical stuff first. The word "lehithro'ea'" for “must show
himself friendly” means "to be broken" but it was a very hard word to
translate because one of the words it is constructed of is ra'a' and it
could be attached to many different verb stems and that is why it was hard
for them to translate it. It is a "hithpael" mood verb which shows a
reflexive action. The man who has friends must show himself to be friendly.
So the reflexive action coming back on him is the requirement of being
friendly and that is probably why they translated it that way.
- 1901 ASV - He that maketh many friends doeth it to his own destruction;
But there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
- NIV - A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend
who sticks closer than a brother.
- The reflexive action would not line up with the first part of that
verse. It would be like if I looked in the mirror and saw Brad Pitt staring
back at me, that would not be a proper reflection because I am better
looking than him.
- This verse give a practical aspect of the golden rule.
(Mat 7:12 KJV) Therefore all things whatsoever
ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them: for this is the
law and the prophets. If a person is going to show
themselves friendly, then in turn, they will have many friends. How many
would like to befriend a person who is nasty and treats others with
contempt? Normally, people flee from those attitudes and are not drawn to
them. What draws people is the friendship that is true and if a person shows
themselves friendly, even in times of trouble, then they will have many
friends. There is no such thing is Scripture as a fair weather friend. A
fair weather friend is one who is your friend as long as everything is good
and you can do things for them but when you run into hard times, then they
start running, in the opposite direction. The friend that sticks closer than
a brother is the Lord Jesus Christ.
(Mark 3:35 KJV) For whosoever shall do the will of God, the same is my
brother, and my sister, and mother. As His
children, He also sees us as brethren, in other words, he uses the family
setting where there should be more closeness than that of a friendship from
the outside. Jesus is closest to us during the times of hardship, when
others are running out the door, He is coming in.