1 Timothy 5:11-15
1 Tim 5:11 (KJB)
But the younger widows refuse: for when they have begun to wax wanton against Christ, they will marry;
Younger - New, fresh or recent
They have begun to wax wanton against - Sensuality turns them against
Here the Apostle Paul seems to deal harshly with the younger widows. Here the focus is on those who are younger in years but also newly widowed. Since they have suffered a great loss in their life, it was feared by Paul that they would set out to marry again and in that search, may become involved with an unbeliever and that relationship may sink into sex before marriage as a way the widow might want to secure her new husband. Paul did not want these younger widows placed on a church roll because they had the ability to remarry which is permissible according to the Scriptures. Some of the younger widows may have resorted to prostitution to support themselves and that is why Paul wanted them to marry again, to prevent these situations.
1 Tim 5:12 (KJB)
Having damnation, because they have cast off their first faith.
Damnation - Condemnation
It is interesting that the Lord Jesus Christ made the same indictment against the church at Ephesus. (Rev 2:4 KJV) Nevertheless I have somewhat against thee, because thou hast left thy first love. This church left its first love and probably after Timothy had gone home to be with the Lord, another pastor took over who led the church down the wrong path. Paul states that these younger widows have cast off their first faith, that is, the Lord Jesus Christ and now have begun to run with the world. This situation may have spread in the church at Ephesus leading to the divine indictment.
1 Tim 5:13 (KJB)
And withal they learn to be idle, wandering about from house to house; and not only idle, but tattlers also and busybodies, speaking things which they ought not.
Learn - To learn by investigation or instruction
Idle - Lazy, useless, careless, or inactive
Tattlers - Gossipers
Busybodies - Meddlesome, curious or magical
When a person is thrown into a new situation, they have to completely change their daily living habits. I do not endorse playing the lottery but I have read numerous accounts of people who won millions and their lives had degenerated into drugs, alcohol, family splits and even murder. A person who works a daily job and is then thrown into the life of idleness, will allow their baser nature to shine forth. If a woman is married and taking care of a home and suddenly her husband dies, then she too will be thrown into a new situation, which if she does not handle correctly, will cause her to degenerate into a sinful lifestyle. Paul is stating that these widows, instead of maintaining their industriousness, learn to become lazy or idle. It may be at the beginning of their widowhood that they are visiting friends for comfort but if that becomes a routine, it can turn into a daily lifestyle, eventually becoming the normal habit. Then as they neglect their house, they become gossipers and busybodies meddling in the affairs of others. It is interesting that Paul uses the same word in the Greek for “busybodies” as he does for the word “curious” in describing the satanic arts which were prevalent at Ephesus. (Acts 19:19 KJV) Many of them also which used curious arts brought their books together, and burned them before all men: and they counted the price of them, and found it fifty thousand pieces of silver. We can see by this word usage, that being a busybody is satanic in nature and that is how one turns away from Christ and goes after Satan, of course, the primary reason is that a person was not saved to begin with.
1 Tim 5:14 (KJB)
I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
Reproachfully - Revile or heap abuse on
To prevent Satan and his unsaved people from casting any reproach or slander upon the church at Ephesus, Paul is urging that the widows remarry and if they do not have children, to bear children and to guide the house in the right way. This will stop the mouths of those who want to accuse the church of being a phony organization. Those widows who are truly saved, will make an attempt to live a disciplined life to stop any accusation from any unbeliever that Christianity is a false religion. Their greatest nemesis in Ephesus was probably the cult of Diana which would have open arms for any young woman, widow or not, to join the cult and this would bring reproach on the church if she was a member, even if she was not saved, she would still be considered a member of the church.
1 Tim 5:15 (KJB)
For some are already turned aside after Satan.
Paul must have received word that some of the widows have already left the protection of the church and have entered the realm of Satan, the world. Paul’s desirer was to see this exodus of wantonness stop at all costs. Maybe Paul knew some of these widows and now that they have turned their backs on Christ, he wanted to stop the spread of the spiritual infection. They were allowing their sensuality to rule over them since many lacked age and wisdom in this matter.